Intro To BDSM – Hug It Out!

BDSM HeaderNow so far, we’ve talked about what you can do DURING your sexual explorations, but what happens after? After-care is a great way of making sure your submissive is feeling ok, and the perfect way to reconnect to “the real world” after a bit of heavy BDSM play.

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Sometimes after a scene, your submissive may experience something called Sub Drop – which is often explained as a rush of emotions as they come out of the submissive mindset. The best way to deal with this is to comfort your sub, hold them, get them a drink of water. BDSM and kink often acts as ways for people to express themselves and let go, its a cathartic experience for many. Dom’s can also experience the other side of this, they may feel a strange guilt for (consentingly) hurting their submissive, and this is perfectly normal too! As with any relationship, it is important to be there for each other in any way you can, and talk through everything that is going on in your mind.

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That brings me to the next stage, talking. Discuss what you did in your session, did you try anything new? How did you both find it? Would you do it again? Would you do anything differently? If your sub called their safeword at any time (as well as everything coming to a halt immediately),this is when you  should talk about what happened.

Now, take time to reconnect, get back on a level playing field. Even within a 24/7 lifestyle BDSM relationship after-care is important. Take a shower together, or give each other a massage, these are perfect ways to be with you partner, and to shake off any remaining “drop” symptoms.

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You may be thinking, if BDSM is meant to be fun, then shouldn’t you just be able to get on with it at the end, and not need all this? BDSM is fun, but sometimes it can get emotional – you always need to keep a dialogue open and what’s good, and what isn’t. Some might not want after-care, its all about listening to each other and finding out what each other needs to have the best experience.

SO GET YOUR CUDDLE ON!

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