Intro To BDSM – All Tied Up!

I2BDSM all tied up restraint blogWhen “getting kinky” with restraint comes to mind, you automatically think of the classic hen party centrepiece, a pair of fluffy handcuffs. But what are your other options?

The word bondage, which is often used as a slang term for the entire BDSM umbrella, means the sexual practice of tying up or restraining a partner. It can also mean slavery, but don’t let that heavy connotation put you off – all play (when done right) is in the name of enjoyment, fun, and comes from a good place.

red bondage tape restraintThe easiest method of restraint is bondage tape – available in lots of colours to match your boudoir! Non sticky so none of that annoying residue, or painful removal – and designed to be reused! Made from PVC this tape only sticks to itself, meaning its a safe bet for bondage beginners – however it does loosen a little over time so if you’re looking to extend your play then some of the items later in this blog might be better suited to your needs.

under bed restraint romanie smith

Under the bed restraints can add a little raunchiness to any bedroom, and the best thing is – they can be attached to any size bed! No need for bedposts or headboards, this discreet system fastens under your mattress and is there for any time you want to heat things up. Soft and comfortable, the only thing your partner will be concentrating on is you.

wrist cuffs restraint setleather deluxe wrist cuff restraintpurple restraint cuff and collar set

Cuffs are the most commonly used restraint in bondage play, as there’s a wealth of possibilities that come with them. Pop on a pair of metal traditional style handcuffs – but don’t be like this guy and lose the keys! (However most models do come with a quick release button for safety). If you prefer something a little softer, you can get cuffs with Velcro fastenings, or for something a little sturdier – buckles. These are quick to use and are less likely to come off in the throes of passion – which leaves you to focus on the task at hand! Wrist cuffs, and their slightly larger ankle counterparts often have d-rings, which mean they can be easily attached to each other with a double ended trigger hook – or to other things allowing for more elaborate restraint systems.

neck to wrist cuffs restraint                                             leather neck to wrist cuffs restraint

To take it up a notch, use a restraint system or a binder. These usually attach one body part to another, restricting movement – for example the ones pictured above keep your partners arms to their sides or behind them (because the back strip is attached to a collar). Neck to arm restraints are common, as are wrist to ankle “slave sets”, which keep the arms at a certain level in relation to the legs.

leg spreader 30 inch restraint

Something a little more hardcore are spreader and restraint bars. Some of these attach to ankle cuffs, and keep the legs open, whilst other attach arms and legs in a style similar to a hog tie (more on that in a bit). Obviously, the bars have a lot less leeway to move around than the other options, so this would be for when you have got used to the feeling of restraint, and want to go further in your bondage explorations.

red bondage shibari rope restraint

Although it might sound easy, rope is the most complex tool to use for restraint (so much so we’re going to dedicate an ENTIRE post to it!). There are many knots and different ties to learn – and it takes practice to do it safely. Once you’ve made sure your partner is comfortable (in terms of not cutting off the blood supply to anywhere!), then you can be in for a good night of fun and strong restraint. Rope comes with endless possibilities, and is durable if used correctly – just make sure you always have a pair of scissors ready to cut you’re partner out if they’re not feeling the vibe any more – safety and fun ALWAYS comes first!

There’s so many methods of restraining someone in BDSM play that it can be tough to work out which is best for you. There’s never any harm in experimenting, and if you’re not into a certain thing – no stress! Hopefully this Honour Intro To BDSM Restraint guide has been helpful and I wish you all the best in getting all tied up!

Stay tuned for lesson number 4 – what subject would you like to see your Fairy Kinkmother tackle next?

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